The most terrifying part of my job as a senior IT manager was the fact that my bosses always seemed to have a little more to say than I did.
I was lucky enough to be able to take a few meetings with my boss, and it was all very collegial.
I also had my fair share of bad mornings and the occasional unpleasant encounter.
But what made my boss even more intimidating was that he was always willing to make me feel like I was doing the job wrong.
It didn’t matter if I had a solid understanding of what the company did or not, if my boss said something like “you’re doing this wrong”, I’d have a very tough time convincing him otherwise.
In fact, I’d probably get a very nasty email back from him.
It was that simple.
And I didn’t like it at all.
When you’re the leader of a large organisation, you’ve got to constantly be reminded that your actions are going to have consequences.
You can’t let that get to you.
If you’re not careful, you’ll end up with a situation where you just give up.
I have to admit, I did have a few bad mornings at work as a junior IT manager, but it wasn’t like my boss was constantly telling me I wasn’t doing my job right.
He just kept asking me to “think harder” and to “be more productive”.
It was just something that he told me every single day and I thought it was very helpful.
It made me feel that I was always doing the right thing.
And when I did make mistakes, it was always in the name of the company.
I don’t want to give anyone a bad name, but when I was in IT, I made a lot of mistakes.
And sometimes I was right.
But I think it was the job of junior IT managers to learn from the mistakes of the senior staff and be able not to let them define us, to take responsibility for what happened, and to not let it define us.
If my boss told me that I had to be more productive and that I should be more careful, I would be like “that’s your decision, not mine”.
In fact I would make it so hard for my bosses to change the direction of our company, that we would end up becoming a small-time IT company.
As I’ve mentioned before, IT is a very big industry.
There are hundreds of thousands of IT companies in the world.
And it’s easy to get distracted by all the hype.
It’s easy for IT managers in the business to be very critical of other IT managers.
It might be difficult for you to feel confident in your role and confident in the IT process itself.
But it’s even harder to deal with a person who says something like, “I don’t care if you’re doing it wrong, I don, you, and I”.
It’s really hard to take it personally.
And you’re going to find yourself constantly hearing these comments, and being told that you’re failing.
In many cases, your bosses have no idea that you were the one that made the bad decision.
It could even be that your boss had an idea of the right course of action before you even went to your boss.
But when you’ve been in the role for so long, you become used to being criticised and being blamed.
You become a bit accustomed to it and it’s no different for you in the workplace.
But you can’t change that in a matter of days.
The only way you can really change that is to start talking about it and to do something about it.
It doesn’t take long for you – and you need to be aware of how to start – but it takes some time to change how you feel.
I’ve learnt a lot from the bad mornings, but there’s also a lot that you need learn from your bosses.
You need to learn to be mindful of how you present yourself to your managers, because you might be the one who ends up being blamed for something you didn’t do.
You might feel that you’ve failed to make your boss happy and that your job has been ruined.
But as you start to talk about the bad experiences and how they affect you, you might find that it’s a lot easier to start to work towards better relationships with your boss, managers and staff.
It won’t be easy, but you’ll be able.
You’ll be more comfortable with your own mistakes, and you’ll feel a lot more confident about yourself.
If your boss is the boss you want, you can expect to have more good days in the future.